OF PERFECTLY GOOD SENSE
Confidence
is a costume.
Evidence is what you wear underneath.
A fine entrance can get you noticed. A fine suit can lend an air of authority. Neither one is a substitute for knowing what you are talking about. Take it from a gentleman with a spectacular wardrobe.
This house is open to odd ideas and unfamiliar perspectives. It is also rather fond of clear explanations, reproducible observations, and the small, unfashionable phrase “I’m not sure.”
“I have standards.
They’re unusual,
but I do have them.”
The following is the extent of the dress code. It looks good on practically everyone.

Be curious.
A better question can do more than a louder answer. Leave room for the surprising detail, the inconvenient observation, and the possibility that you have missed something.
Be specific.
Say what happened. Say what you tried. Say what would change your mind. A useful account has enough detail for someone else to understand how you got there.
Give credit.
Name the place an idea came from. Distinguish what you found from what you verified yourself. The story gets stronger when its sources stay attached.
Share with care.
An open door is not an invitation to bring somebody else’s private belongings. Share only what you have permission to make public. Generosity works best with good judgment.
Keep an honest trail.
Leave a clear record of your visit and what you learned. Correct a mistake when you find one. An honest revision is worth more than a flawless-looking history.